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MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: Pain or Pleasure? What Drives You?
All human decisions and acts are to either avoid pain or to enjoy pleasure. Yet, what seems painful to one person may be pleasurable to another such as the recent Comrades marathon. Thousands of people felt drawn to the pain of the event in pursuit of the pleasure in completing it. Some people have a high threshold for pain in the form of poverty, obesity, unhappiness etc. Others in fear of those, do all they can to accelerate the great escape from pain. Others are instantly attracted to the pleasure of wealth, a slim and trim physique and chooses emotional wellness over unhappiness.
Everything we do is to either enjoy the suffering of pain (self inflicted or complicit) or to enjoy the pleasure of achieving. According to Anthony Robbins and the practitioners of Neuro Linguistic Programming, all humans have Six Basic Needs in a sequence and combination which is unique to you. So ask your self what drives you?
Here are the six basic human needs that drives behaviour…
1. Certainty: Some people are seeking the assurance that they can avoid pain and enjoy pleasure. Some of us even want to be certain of our appointment with death.
2. Uncertainty OR Variety: This is the need for the variety of the unknown or the requirement of change or some new stimulus. These are generally people with the need for new and ongoing adventures.
3. Significance: This is the need to feel unique, important, special or needed by others.
4. Connection OR Love: Here we speak of needing a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone, family or community and sometimes something such as a brand.
5. Growth: This the need for expansion of capacity,ability or understanding. The need for continuous growth, development and learning…
6. Contribution: This is a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others who are in need. We are driven by wanting to making a difference in the lives of others.
Your task is to understand the following:
- Which of these drive you most? In what sequence?
- How do you meet these needs. Are your actions positive or negative in fulfilling them?
- What can you do from today to focus on your growth and contribution?
By understanding what drives you, you can create new patterns of excellence which can serve you, creating lasting success.
Peak personal performance comes from understanding your drivers, whilst overcoming your limitations, transcending the mediocre and embracing your potential for the complete and ultimate breakthrough, giving you Personal Mastery.
For more on increasing your organizations’s productivity in Sales, across industries contact me today for a Complimentary 30 minute Business Development Consultation.
Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
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Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: Tired of The Rat Race? Time to Break The Box!
So, you wake up in a box called a bed. You shower in a box. You have boxed cereal. You drive to work in a box. You ride the box up to your office. You speak to others on a box and you turn on your box at your desk. You repeat the same pattern, watching TV on a box and following the instructions on the box…ultimately ending up in a box on your funeral day. Now lets be frank, Our thoughts and actions have been shaped into this box. Today, lets break free from box thinking. Lets use our creativity to be limitless in health, wealth, career…
The dogma of going to a good school, getting good grades, marrying a good person and working your buns off and one day you will be happy, rich and fulfilled has left us all red faced. We trade 40 years of full time employment for a few years of living in retirement. We are self imprisoned to serve the dreams of others while sacrificing ours until old age. Now lets face the brutal truth…
Get out of the box. Stop running the treadmill of the hamster. Start taking responsibility and accountability for your life. A golden handshake which has become rusty over time is of no value when you trade 5 days of imprisonment for 2 days of freedom. Emancipate yourself. This is the new revolution. This is the time to break free from the rat race. There are no winners in the rat race…there are just rats.
I’m a big advocate of self employment, entrepreneurship, business ownership etc. You should rather ‘own” the rat race, than run in it. By owning the rat race, you create opportunities for others to fulfill their needs. Note I’m not advocating their dreams will be fulfilled, unless it is your dream to flip burgers until death, or mop floors until age 65, or that you want to be a taxi driver as its the most fulfilling occupation under the sun.
Don’t be fooled by so many “Get Rich Quick” scams which sing out loudly “Earn R20K in 2 weeks”, “Work from Home and get Rich”, “Business Opportunity”, “Get rich while staying at home”, they often translate into “Work for me at no pay, just commission”, “Free time”? Its a fallacy. It takes all your free time earn those commissions.
Lets examine how you can kick the box:
- Work for yourself. Start today. We all have hundreds of needs to be fulfilled. Look around you. Wherever you see problems, I see opportunities. By solving other peoples problems, you create opportunities.
- Invent, create, re-invent. The opportunities are there for manufacturing new products, offering new services or improving the services of existing businesses. Lets consider a few examples…get together your family members and start a family business. Use each others networks and skills and launch from the living room or garage but remember to succeed, you must exit the garage and enter formal business premises. Why import Chinese products when we can make them ourselves? Start a new food franchise/bakery from your home. Start a soap manufacturing business. Start a cosmetics company and partner with a huge distributor to reach new markets. Develop an app that adds value. Grow flowers for the funeral parlour. Grow vegetables for the local store. Resell stationary to businesses and schools. Find a unique advantage that you can add value for your customers to compel them to do business with you. Add value in price, quality, service. There are endless ideas. Choose one you love to do, grow it until it matures and the skies are truly the limits.
- Sell, sell, sell…The greatest ideas are useless if you cant sell them onto others. You reach success when you achieve critical mass. When you sell millions, to millions of customers, you are serving millions and therefore you are earning millions. Sell to the greatest number of customers both local and international through mass reach…either a a national footprint through stores or through an online store. While you sleep, customers can buy through your online portal, because sales grows us, our economy, our dreams, ambitions and goals.
If you are truly tired of the rat race and want a viable alternative, that’s going to take time and effort, and you are sincere about building a meaningful lifestyle geared towards your possibility, your dreams and your achievement then you cant miss this opportunity.
Start up now and grow your business from idea to fledgling to a thriving business through the upcoming Vinesh Maharaj Personal Mastery Workshop. This Program is targeted at serious, sincere entrepreneurs who are committed to kicking the rat race in favour of running their own race.
For more on increasing your organizations’s productivity in Sales, across industries contact me today for a Complimentary 30 minute Business Development Consultation.
Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
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Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: Get out of your own way
Self sabotage is a daily occurrence most of us choose not to focus on, or even discuss. Yet many people are guilty of impeding their own progress through bad choices. Choice is a wonderful equalizer. Everyone chooses their own reality. Your life is full of choices from rising in the morning to resting at night. Everyone has the same 24 hours everyday and everyone chooses their own level of poverty. For some $20K is enough per month, for others $50K or a $100K is not enough. Do you choose to surrender at $20K? Whats your number? When do you surrender?
Self Sabotage affects almost everyone at some point or another. “I have a tendency to sabotage relationships; I have a tendency to sabotage everything. Fear of success, fear of failure, fear of being afraid. Useless, good-for-nothing thoughts” said Michael Buble.
Personal Treason should be a punishable offense. This will reduce or eliminate people from making poor decisions. What is personal treason you wonder? Well, its when you act contrary to your highest values, goals and ideals. Here is an example.
A young college boy meets girl, gets drunk together, “falls in love”, gets her pregnant, quits college to marry and feed his new found love and new arrival. He chose the girl over his education. He chose alcohol over common sense. He then chose to have unprotected sex risking several STD’s, unwanted pregnancy and perhaps even the deathly HIV. He then chooses marry as it’s “the right thing to do” after all the wrong things he has done… This is a typical example of personal treason. His life could have been so different had he made better choices. Now he trades 5 days a week to survive on a white collar salary and numbs himself over the weekends watching sport, drinking beer and eating away his pain. Personal Treason can result in personal destruction as in this case.
Lets understand better choices…had the young man not gotten drunk and then chose not to have unprotected sex, he would not have gotten his love pregnant. He would not have to drop out of college but could have graduated and built a career as opposed to working in a dead end job, marrying the same girl he fell in love with, having and raising a beautiful family through design not through circumstance. Thus pursuing a career as opposed to a job.
Now you may not self sabotage to this degree, but as Steve Jobs said in his Stanford commencement address in 2005, that looking forward you cant always connect the dots but by looking back you can see how choices are all interconnected and how they serve or fail you.
Here are 5 compelling ideas to stave off Personal Treason:
- Be the worlds best gate keeper – Keep at bay any self limiting, self defeatist, self treason thoughts, scenarios and opportunities. A gate keeper has keen awareness of what serves your success and what sinks your success.
- Choose your reality – Disrupt your self defeatist thinking and instilling possibility thinking. Make informed choices and eliminate self sabotaging..to serve your greater good. Choose the path of more resistance. Instant gratification leads to long term pain. To gain muscles, body builders choose more short term pain, heavier weights, more repetitions etc.
- Time/Benefit calculation – (BUY NOW…PAY LATER, or PAY NOW, ENJOY LATER) Instant gratification (getting it right now and benefitting in the moment) as opposed to seeing time as a continuum staving off the short term pleasure for the long term goal. Start by calculating the pro’s and the cons of your impending decisions. All instant gratification comes at a price…
- Price/Value proposition – By establishing the price of immediate actions versus delayed gratification…which one comes at a higher price?
- Enable your success – Ensure that everything you do is consistent with your road map to “Success-ville”. Those short detours to instant gratification can lead you down the slippery slopes of destruction.
So get out of your own way and summit the peaks of your personal performance. Stop self sabotaging and start creating, networking, dreaming and planning your great escape from the jails of personal treason imprisonment.
For more on increasing your organizations’s productivity in Sales, across industries contact me today for a Complimentary 30 minute Business Development Consultation.
Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
Mobile: + 27 84 990 1539
Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: 7 Practical Steps to Getting What You Want
Waking up early can be challenging with the cold dreary mornings, foggy skies and frosty air if you have no all-consuming-purpose. Mine, is to share the message of possibility, abundance, opportunity and mastery if you just awaken to it. Slumbering through life is not an option for you, is it? The cold early mornings are a breath of fresh air. As I sip on my coffee, I reminisce on it’s flavour, enjoying its comfort while updating my journal of the activities, meetings and relationships I need to serve, I wish to share with you that the key to success is not just big hair raising goals alone. Goals are a measure…but people, human relationships and superior human interactions is the way and the means.
People unlock doors of opportunity if they like and trust you. People will either sing your praise or be the cause of your demise. Long after you have left the room, people will remember how you made them feel. Does the waft of roses remain or that of thorns cutting through bloody flesh? In every sphere of reality, unless you are a renounced monk in the Himalaya’s, who has carried a vow of no interactions, a vow of complete silence meditating upon self realization, we are constantly surrounded by people. Best then to master human relationships as it is one of the keys to the combination lock; success.
Remember that everyone around you is a potential battery, powerful beacon or communication station. Batteries that can recharge you through tough times. A beacon of hope and inspiration and your greatest advocates, singing your (song) message. By increasing your batteries, beacons and communication stations, you will increase the friendship, love and value in your life benefitting both your personal and professional lives, while simultaneously launching an avalanche of construction of your purpose.
- Acknowledge your shortcomings. The last time I checked no one is perfect. Get to work on self improvement. If you don’t work on yourself, who will? Start investing in your non academic education (How to Win Friends and Influence people – Dale Carnegie is a great start) to increase your human relationships. Acquire new skills, master new habits and acquire relevant knowledge in becoming a master of relationships.
- Stay humble. I don’t mean become a door mat. I mean keep your feet on the ground and your heads out of the clouds. No one enjoys the company of an arrogant, self absorbed, egotist. Real humility opens doors to endless opportunities. Don’t let success, money or status get to your head. Remember, “the bigger they are, the harder they fall” and “pride comes just before a fall”. So stay humble.
- Stop judging, start understanding. In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey he speaks of “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood“. The world will be brighter if we all adopted this simple, yet extremely difficult path. We are too confined to being right, heard or being better. Instead, change your lenses and see the world through other peoples eyes. While it’s largely the same view, reality may be transparently different.
- Make a difference. Whats the use of long winded talks about making the world a better place? Or discussing world peace? Or complaining about the poor state of affairs. Lets get active and be champions of change. Whining has never won any friends, neither has complaining. Lets act for change. Lets walk our talk and make a difference in the lives you are surrounded by.
- Adjust your attitude. You are not a victim unless you CHOOSE to become one. By adjusting your attitude you can overcome almost any challenge or situation. Sometimes all you have is your attitude, like Victor Frankl who was confined to a Nazi concentration camp where death was certain. Through a small attitudinal adjustment, not only did he survive but went on to becoming a respected author, neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor.
- Give more than you are expected to. Give more in love, in support, in friendship. He who gives is supremely richer than he, the taker who constantly takes and takes and takes without watering the tree that feeds him or her. Provide more value and give more. There are endless ways to give more. Start today with a warm smile and a heart-felt greeting…not only will your friends, family, customers and colleagues be delighted, you too will feel a wave of warmth overcoming you.
- Service is the only way. Everyone is a servant. Even the president. He serves the peoples needs. No one person can claim I am not a servant. By serving the needs of others, invariably your needs are met. Increase your rate of service, improve your quality, improve your mood of service and great destinations are possible for you. Serve those around you and your value to them increases.
Remember that people create opportunities, people buy from people, people support people. Thus after yourself, your greatest investment is in other people, for through them your goals are realized. So get started today by sending personalized notes and cards. Make a warm call to an old friend, relative or customer. Then stay in touch as is regular as is required. Nurture the people and the people will nurture you, your goals and your success.
For more on increasing your organizations’s productivity across industries contact me today for a Complimentary 30 minute Business Development Consultation. Though inspired and motivated staff who share values, you can move mountains.
Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
Mobile: + 27 084 990 1539
Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: Sowing Seeds of Success
Seeds are the birthright of future goals or achievement.
Daily, we are either sowing seeds of doubt, fear and failure or seeds of confidence, courage, success and achievement. Seeds are the thoughts and actions which when applied with a successful formula, germinate and create your desired outcomes. No school, college or university teach the Art Of Seeding which explains why so many people are harvesting the bitter fruits of self destruction, financial meltdown, marital failure, career disaster and so forth.
Its common knowledge that within an apple, is a potential orchard. Similarly, within you there is an infinity of riches of all kinds; Health, Wealth, Family, Friends, Community, Spirituality etc. Why then are so few people living in full potential?
To manifest success, a deep internal realization and awakening must first happen. The realization that its all, already within you (BELIEF). Followed by it is possible for you (POSSIBILITY), along with the INSPIRATION to work at toiling the soils of success until manifestation is achieved.
THERE ARE NO SHORT CUTS TO ANY PLACE WORTHWHILE:
There are no short cuts to going anywhere worthwhile. Success its-self must be earned. Success is not an event. It’s a process. Don’t seek financial freedom in an event such as the “LOTTO”, “when I land that DEAL”, when “I earn $1Mil“, “when I get a RAISE”. LOTTO winners end up broke or dead within 5 years. Any lasting and meaningful place to go to in health, wealth and any other is a process. A series of incremental activities which yield the final RESULT.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO HARVEST:
If you sow apple seeds, you cant expect strawberries. Be crystal clear about what you want and what you sow. Some people often get mixed results not understanding the fundamentals that THOUGHTS and ACTIONS must always be congruent. You cant think of Paris but drive to Parys…You can’t think of wealth sometimes but your ever consuming fear is poverty. You cant think diet but live on fast foods etc. Be clear, consistent and congruent in your seeding and your harvest will yield exactly what you had sown.
THE SUCCESS FORMULA:
Luck is defined as “when preparation meets opportunity”. I am a great believer in creating my own luck through being best prepared for success. This includes knowing WHEN and WHAT to sow. There are seasons for sowing and seasons for harvesting. That’s how nature maintains perfect balance. Don’t sow today, for today. Sow for tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, the next decade, the next century etc. Take a long term view of success. We are not gambling for random, instant results. Rather, we are planning and preparing, using the infallible laws of nature. Preparation creates opportunity.
Seed quality makes or breaks your best laid plans. If your seeds are past its sell by date, you have a serious setback. If the quality of your thoughts and acts are weak, inconsistent and incoherent, you are destined for “The Farm-ville of Failure”. Quality of thoughts, planning and execution is pivotal to creating and manifesting your success. Ensure your seeds are world class for what you sow, you shall reap. Sow junk…harvest junk! To reap a world-class harvest you must sow world class seeds. So take time to ensure your quality, before, during and after. Don’t feel confined, rather feel liberated in that you can remove, change and influence your harvest by acting on your quality.
Fertile soil is a prerequisite for any crop to yield its full potential. Don’t sow in dry, arid, barren lands. Ensure your ideas are implemented in the fertile soils of opportunity. Sometimes you have to create the environment for your success. Water and fertilize your plans, contacts and environment until it becomes ready for sowing. At other times you may have to find lands (environment and contacts) better suited to your plans and ideas for the (time/money/value) cost of cultivating the soil may see your opportunity pass due to competition (who may beat you to market), a change of season (late to harvest) or a marked decline in demand.
Every farmer has help. He seeks the hands that will bring him the desired outcomes…a bountiful harvest. Hands, with years of experience. Ensure you are generous enough to seek the right help with experience to manifest your dreams. If not, your well laid out seeding plans, may just come to a pile of dust for your lack of experience. Experience is wisdom acquired through self study, learning and doing the very thing you are trying to execute. Get the best hands you can afford to increase your probability for succeeding.
Let it rain abundance. To further increase your success, orchestrate the rains of success…abundance. You will require fertilizer, water, sunshine etc. to create abundance. Ensure your circumstances allow for the rains of abundance. How to create abundance you may ask? Firstly, start by sowing abundance with others. If it is money you want, start by being generous to family, friends, charities etc. Whatever you give, you get….ten fold. If it is love you want…give it. Give it freely. To increase your social circle hook up with other socialites and create opportunities for others. Zig Ziglar said “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want”. Abundance is everywhere, you can see it in everything. Let it rain an abundant harvest in your life. In your career, In your business. In your relationships. The way to abundance is seeding. Start today…To harvest a life of self confidence, courage, success and achievement partner with me at my upcoming Personal Mastery Program to sow your dream life.
For more on increasing your organizations’s productivity in Sales across industries contact me today for a Complimentary 30 minute Business Development Consultation.
Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
Mobile: + 27 84 990 1539
Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
QUESTIONS ARE THE ANSWERS
“I keep six honest serving men, (They taught me all I knew); Their names are What And Why And When And How And Where And Who”
Rudyard Kipling
MONDAY MENTAL PROTEIN: And The Winner Is…
Everyday we awake and star in our very own block buster, Oscar award winning movie or in the dismal failure no one watches, while in between sits a large majority of mediocre films and lives.
YOU are the producer, director and star of your own movie. You are poised with calls to act in favour of your success or to pass up the opportunity for an Oscar and settle for “The Flop of the Year 2015”
Want to score an Oscar, after Oscar, year after year? Here is how:
- Success is not an event. Remember, its a series of minor but important, events, time lines, decisions and actions which finally yields the Oscar. A great movie has a great theme, sound track, actors, actresses, script etc. just to mention a few. So get to work and master each of the elements.
- Don’t follow the herd. Be original. Write your own script – “Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds”sang the wise Bob Marley. Free your mind and explore your script.
- Set the highest standards for yourself. Commit to a world-class, Oscar quality script. Feel free to rewrite it any time. Remember, you have free reign, it’s your movie.
- Take inspiration from others. Watch other’s movies and learn. Model their strategies to celebrate your success.
- Hire quality support casts and crew – You’re only as good as your team. Let the specialists create the environment for your success. Get yourself the help required to produce timeless classics.
- Satisfy your souls urge. Push the boundaries. Express yourself, playing to the beat of your drum. Be your own Quentin Tarantino.
- Be courageous. The nay-sayers and dooms-dayers are always fault finding or providing negative commentary. Remember, “dogs will bark while caravans roll by”. So keep on rolling.
I look forward to watching your Oscar winning movie at the local cinema, newspaper, in paperback, on television or online celebrating your Oscar.
Write, plan and review some more. Then, take every act defying the odds…These magical keys will unlock your genius and reveal your reality. Whether you are in a corporate, SMME or small business, make your way into the annals of history by making your Oscar nomination today. Lights, Camera…Action!
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Keep smiling, keep shining…
My name is Vinesh Maharaj and I’m your coach and partner in success…
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Email: vinesh@vineshmaharaj.com
PROTECT YOUR MIND
“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet”
– Mahatma Gandhi
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HAVE YOU DISCOVERED YOUR CONTINENT YET?
“Every man has in himself a continent of undiscovered character. Happy is he who acts as the Columbus to his own soul”
– James Fitzgerald Stephen
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